Other than money problems, it seems the topic that plagues many domestic relationships is household chores. The difference in the distribution of labour when it comes to cleaning and sanitising leads to quarrels, which may eventually escalate and undermine the relationship.
The truth of the matter is that any partner would feel stressed if they think they are the only one doing chores, or doing way more than the other party. If you find yourself in such a situation, you need to follow some proven tips to remedy it.
1. Set the premises: it should be a partnership
Now, many people believe that the fairest division of household chores should always be 50/50. But that is not an ideal way to look at it. There are some tasks better suited for the man of the house, and there are chores that his lady can better handle. Designating chores to one person without the agreement of the other is often a bad way to go about it. Instead, you should be aiming to create a mutually satisfying arrangement that works for your abilities, schedules and preferences.
2. Agree on your mutual priorities
Surely there are many things you both agree on: what and how often should be cleaned. However, make sure you have a conversation and ask yourselves what truly matters to you. Don’t try to make the other party see what you feel is important, but just set the mutual priorities. The more specific you are, the better. For example, if both of you agree to deal with vacuuming once a week, you will have no trouble with the chore in the future.
3. See where you can compromise
Don’t expect your beliefs about cleaning and willingness to deal with chores to align 100%. There are things you will find more important than others, and the same goes for your partner. You should compromise. There are a few different ways to do so: meet your partner halfway on a certain task; do their way for one task, and your way for another; do tasks you cannot agree on together. Granted you already know how you feel about the majority of cleaning tasks, you will find it easy to compromise on the rest.
4. Don’t force time for doing chores
To you, the most logical time for doing chores may be on a Saturday or Sunday, when you have all the time in the world. Your partner, however, may prefer to spend that time doing something else, and instead deal with chores during the weekdays when they get back from work. What matters most is not the ‘when’, but whether chores are done in a timely manner.
5. Make a list of chores
Writing down the chores leaves no room for interpretation. If it is on the list, it needs to be done. If you don’t make a list, there is always the chance one of you will forget about some cleaning task, or they will simply ignore it.
6. Do not remind, prompt and mention
Once you have discussed cleaning with your partner, allow them time to do the task. Sure, perhaps it is not a good idea to just ignore them not doing what they agreed, but wait a week or so before you bring it up. That way you will not come across as too pushy and demanding.
There is little doubt that all of these tips should help you and your partner deal with cleaning chores at home without going through many conflicts. Implement them all, and you can handle the challenges of domestic cleaning together.
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